Thursday, February 25, 2010

HELP!! I Just Don't Get It!

So, I've been dealing with a situation for the past 25 years, and I just can't seem to get it! Don't get me wrong, I love my husband dearly (most of the time), but I'm STILL trying to figure out why, after all this time, I feel the need to repeat myself over and over again. I can tell him something, and an hour later, when I bring it up again, he looks at me like I'm some kind of alien and claims I never told him.

I've gone over and over and round and round in my mind and can't seem to make heads or tails of it. I used to think maybe he suffered from short term memory loss, but ruled that out because if I tell him something like "hey, let's watch the game tonight", he'd nag me and remind me of my commitment right up until kick off or tip off or what have you (this is solely a metaphor. I would never really ask him to watch a game). I also ruled out that he did too much acid in the sixties, since I realized he would have been a very small child then. Maybe he just doesn't give two hoots about what I have to say? I can't believe that could be, since I consider myself a person who has plenty of interesting things to say...hummmm...maybe I'm the only one that sees myself this way.

I don't know. I need help with this because it's very frustrating. Most of the people that read my blog know, I've worked at the Scrapbook Store for the past 7 years and pretty much work with the same people, and talk about them ALL THE TIME, yet, the other day when I told him Debbie and Donna were in charge of the weekend krop that the store put on last weekend, he said, "Really? Who's that? Oh, Debbie works at the Scrapbook Store?" I wanted to hit him right there and then...REALLY HARD! I've been talking to him on numerous occasions about this, because I usually run the krop, and didn't have to this year, and Debbie has worked there for years. What the hell??? Another good one was when after we were talking about Bella Blvd a few weeks ago, he says to me, "Tell me again exactly what "Bella" is". WHAT???? I've only been working and doing projects for the company for the past two years! What really kills me, is he can come home from work (he's got about 400 employees) and tell me a story that includes several people, and if I don't remember everyones name, rank and serial number, I'm accused of not caring about him and what he goes through throughout the day.

Sorry for my rambling, but I just don't get it!

Here's another gem. I tell Paul this past Monday that I had to go into the Scrapbook Store to drop something off and I said I'd be back within the hour. I get to the store and my phone rings. Guess who it is? And guess what he wants? Yep, you guessed it. He wants to know where I am. I wanted to reach through the phone line ( I guess I mean cel tower) and strangle him. I hang up the phone and tell my friend, Cheryl my situation and she proceeds to tell me this:

She said she purposely waits until the last moment to tell her husband anything, because he won't remember. She says, "I held off and didn't tell Jim until Thursday night that I was going to be gone at the weekend krop Friday afternoon through Sunday because I knew he'd forget. Then, what does he do? Friday comes along and he asks me if I wanna go to a fish fry."

So, I guess I'm not the only one. And I guess I'll still be looking for the answer 25 years from now, if he lives that long.


Rhonda said...

I feel your pain girlfriend .... really I do!

AnnaMarie Ferrell said...

Laughing out loud at this one! Hilarious! It's so true! Tyler always asks me where we keep things like the diapers, or the flour. Uh, in the freezer or in the diaper stacker, I can't remember which... That's hysterical about Cheryl's story, too. How funny! :) Thanks for a laugh to start off my day!

Elizabeth said...

okay, so Mike and I have been together for going on nine years. You mean to tell me in 16 more years, he still won't listen or recall me telling him things? I am positively outraged. Guess I'll start writing notes for proof of what I said.

Sheri said...

Beth- I had no idea you could be so violent! lol!! You need to get him away from the TV when you are talking to him. Maybe put it in writing and have him sign it. OR-- just like the kids at the daycare, hold his face when you are talking to him and ask him if he understands when you are done. Treat him like a child, they are all big kids anyways!!

Gail said...

Beth, I CANNOT beleive you posted this...Cheryl and I had the same EXACT conversation last Friday!! One time I got mad because he gave me a look when I didn't know who someone was that he was talking about, and I asked him who I worked with on Tuesday (same person for years) and he just shrugs his shoulders!!!! YIKES

penny said...

You have to laugh on how many,people, responded to this so fast,we all feel the pain. It doesn't matter age,weight,hair or not they are all the same just look different. I agree tell them as your walking out the door and then say, I told you last week,about it. He never remembers, and I'll say I don't know when I'll be home,and He'll say when will you be home?!!!!!!!

Stephanie said...

wow. I don't know that I want to get married anymnore ;)
During the "young love" they always listen and are attentive!

Linda said...

I have been married for 39 years this June. I learned that if I want him to listen to me. I have him stop what it is he is doing and look straight at me. I tell him what I want to tell him then I ask what he heard me say. I can't tell you how many times he would repeat something so different. He IS getting better.
Good Luck
Linda in Stanwood

HollarWood said...

Hello, I grew up in Sheb county. Ennaway love your blog. Men have selective hearing BUT after 31 years he says I do! LOL!! My dogs only hear bla bla blah EAT bla ba Outside!
It's spreading! LOL!!
God Bless